Jellywink Blog

I love that the world of sex tech offers countless options of pleasure products that provide different types of stimulation to suit different desires, and I have a sizable collection. But choosing a new toy - especially if it’s your first - can be daunting, given the massive selection available, so I’ve put together a little guide to help folks with vulvas choose their next - or first - sex toy.

By Erin Voss B-holes: the great equalizer! Whatever one’s gender, sexual identity, or genitals, everyone has an anus. So everyone has the capacity to experience the unique kind of pleasure that can come from stimulating that part of our bodies, if they want to.  For some folks, puritan ideals about sexuality and internalized homophobia can provoke shame when engaging in - or even just when thinking about - anal play. At the same time, the fact that anal play is still taboo among some people in our society actually lends to its appeal. It’s naughty, and who doesn’t like to...

In a world where systemic oppression—whether racial, gender-based, economic, or otherwise—continues to impact millions, it can feel like survival itself is an act of resistance. In the midst of this struggle, self-care isn’t just a luxury—it’s a necessary form of resistance and survival.

By Erin Voss Contrary to some of my ex's beliefs, spit is not lube. There’s a lotta lube out there - and just as much misinformation about it - so the options can feel overwhelming. Which can I use with condoms? Will this one damage my toys? What's the deal with flavored lube??  Read on to make choosing a lube smooth, slippery sailing! [TLDR below]   Why use lube? Personal lubricants, aka lubes, provide a slippery barrier between your genitals and whatever is going on or in them, which is important for delicate vulvovaginal or anorectal tissue. In addition to...

By Erin Voss The New Year is a great opportunity to leave harmful habits and beliefs behind, and to learn and grow. Here are 5 things we think should be ditched and updated for a more inclusive, empowered, sexy year.   OUT: “You don’t need a sex toy, you have me.” IN: Being open and excited to add things to your play that increase your partner’s pleasure, making sex better for everyone. Sex toys don’t replace partners, they simply enhance pleasure, often for both partners. This year, let go of your ego and try something new!   OUT: Gendered pleasure products...